Sexy Saturdays: Marital Aids, what?

Ok, maybe you grew up with a family that was really open about sex or, for whatever reason, you're pretty comfortable with all sorts of sex-related products.

But it you're like us and grew up being even a little embarrassed by driving past a store like Ambiance, then this is for you.

For Beth and I, marital aids, better known as sex toys, were long considered weird, kinky, and especially "bad."  Part of this has to do with the fact that many stores or sites that carry these items are garish and loud, like you just walked into a strobe-light infused illegal drug store. It can weird one out pretty easily!

But one day, many years ago, I was walking and talking with a really good friend that I trusted and respected.  He's one of those few special friends where we can talk quite openly.  We got to the subjects of our marriages and were discussing some challenges Beth and I were having.  He mentioned the marital aids that he and his wife used.

I wouldn't say I was shocked, but I just didn't know 'normal' people used those things (call me naive...oh, well).  From that conversation Beth and I bought and tried out some items (it took a while to find some that were right for us-every couple is different) until we found one that, honestly, has done more to bring satisfaction to my wife than anything else.

The good news is that, for those who don't like to deal with the weird stores or sites, you can find a lot of these items on regular places like Amazon or health stores like Vitasprings (under women's health).  There are even sites that sell marital aids without erotic images on the site like The Pure Bed.

You and your spouse have to talk about this and work out how you feel about them.  'Springing' a marital aid onto your spouse unaware will not likely lead to a romantic evening.

However, like the rest of life, if you are willing to see this as part of the journey to bless each other in more and different ways, as the ancient Jewish poem Song of Songs says,

"Lover and beloved, eat and drink!  Yes, drink deeply of your love!"