We all bring ignorance into our marriage bed when we get married. We may have been virgins on our wedding night or have been very sexually experienced, but we still enter being clueless about what a life-long love life will be like.
We have run into many, many couples, married under 10 years that acknowledge that sex is often difficult for various reasons, particularly for the wife. We were among them as well at one time.
It's so frustrating isn't it? We watch movies and they hop in back seats and have crazy, incredible sex and we hop into our nice comfy beds and find problems, awkwardness, and sometimes even pain.
Well, I want to give you good news. According to an Indiana University study, the sexual satisfaction of wives starts out in marriage much lower than husbands. However, it steadily increases for the next fifteen years, eventually catching up with their husband's satisfaction, and even outshining it by the 20 year mark.
In other words, the longer a woman is married, the better love making becomes. As in everything, there are exceptions. Still, let this encourage you if you're in the early end of things.
Before Beth and I married, I read this tiny little book that included letters a father wrote to his son to prepare him for marriage. He called the chapter on sex "The 20 Year Round Up" and equated lovemaking to learning to play the violin. When you first pick it up it is exciting and you learn a lot. However, you quickly find how difficult it can be to truly play it well. But the longer you stay at it, the more versatile you get and the more beautiful sound you create.
Remember that future.
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