No marriage can survive without this

According to Dr. Archibald Hart, a counselor, psychologist, professor, and author:

“No marriage can survive and be a happy one unless there is resolution on this important issue.”

What is this important issue?

Money?

Communication?

Compatibility?

It’s this:  “Every couple needs to work out a satisfactory sexual schedule.  Inability to work out a compatible sexual relationship is, in my experience, the most common cause of marital conflict and breakup.”

But how can you make sex happen when you don’t “want” it?  To paraphrase Alison Armstrong, author and relationship expert, Don’t let wanting be the cause of sex.  Decide to have sex and it will cause wanting.

Just like other kinds of romance, there is a short span of time in a relationship when you can’t help but be romantic.  But if you want that romance to continue, you have to do it even when you don’t feel romantic.  Suddenly, you’ll find that you feel romantic because you 
d e c i d e d 
to act romantic. 

So, work out a schedule.  How often do you want it?  If your spouse’s answer is different from yours (which is, in reality, the norm), then come to a compromise that satisfies both of you.

It will be worth your time…and it will make your time sweet.