So, to be able to talk about sex in an open, transparent way
often is really hard to find.
But, we're willing to be transparent and risky
here! :)
What I wished someone would have shared with me:
1. I wished that someone would have told me that achieving
really satisfying intimacy takes a long time (years) to develop. It’s like a violin. No one picks it up for the first time and
cranks out a classical masterpiece.
2. I wished that someone would have shared with me that
being able to enjoy the ride would allow me to relax and help get me more to a
place where the elusive orgasm can occur.
3. I wished that someone would have told me that orgasm
wasn't the end-all-be-all to sex. Sure,
it is amazing…but it's not everything. At that PAX conference we
were at, Alison Armstrong hilariously described women’s climax as being like handling
a slippery fish: hard to find and hold onto. :)
4. I wished that someone would have shared with me that, as
women, we take a long time to get tuned in and focused, and that by taking care
of my man first it really helps a lot to get me more ready to be able to arrive
to that needed, trance-like state.
5. I wished that someone would have shared with me the sex
is an adventure - and to relax, and truly enjoy it. There's up and
downs, times we laugh and it's goofy, other times we hardly say a word…all so
different. But in the safety of each other, there's the freedom to
be and not fear all the weirdness and awkwardness that just comes with our
varying moods. Nothing else helps as
much as letting go and truly enjoying it.
Yikes, that's honest. I know that each of our
experiences is different. I hope that what we've learned is somehow
helpful.
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