Author Suzanne Venker in her article "Why men won't marry you" on Fox News wonders if
it comes down to two reasons men are avoiding marriage:
1. "Because they can." Men express love most strongly through sex,
but times have changed and women have made it much easier to get sex without
commitment. To be fair, men aren't
complaining. Either way, Romeo &
Juliet don't need to pull of a secret wedding to consummate their love; they
just need a backseat.
Men also want a family, but more and more, they don't need
marriage to get that either. The number
of children born out of wedlock has risen significantly.
2. "There's nothing in it for them." As our universities have worked strenuously
to break down all gender expectations and convinces millions of young people
each year that there is no difference between men and women, this leaves men
wondering what their role is anyway. Do women
need or even want a provider or protector anymore? Is a husband just another friend with sexual
benefits?
Plus, if a couple eventually gets a divorce (which Venker
points out is usually initiated by women 65%-90% of the time), men are likely
to lose all: money, kids, respect, love, sex.
Should we, then, criticize men for being averse to
commitment? Or are they just taking
stock of reality?
Or, if I may pontificate, has culture so perverted
relationship values that marriage simply becomes one of several valid options
for couples?
May it not be so for our children. Amen.
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