Are you in the mood? Maybe it doesn't matter.

Imagine your life if you only did the following activities when you were in the mood:

• going to work
• grocery shopping
• spending time with your kids
• talking to your friends
• getting dressed

You would be financially strapped, hungry, distant from your kids, friendless, and slovenly.

Yet, isn't it funny that we often feel like sex with our spouse should only happen when we're both in the mood?

Alison Armstrong says in The Queen's Code:

"What is normal for couples is to have sex when you both want to.  That is usually fine in the beginning when sexual tension is high.  The tension gets sex started and that is always the most difficult hurdle.  But as time goes on, two people wanting sex at the exact same moment, when conditions are favorable and the opportunity exits is like trying to line up the moons and the stars.  Especially since sex drives depend greatly upon hormone levels for both men and women....I believe you cannot leave something as important as your sex life in the hands of something as undependable as your bodies' cyclical and circumstantial hormones."