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On The Generous Husband blog, the author was setting out a challenge to married couples to make love each day for a week.  I'm not proposing the challenge here (though, if you're game-go for it!), but I thought he had some insightful points for husbands in particular about what it takes to make the marital bed work.

So as not to waste the title (A week of sex), let’s discuss sex challenges. 

I’ve seen various pastors and bloggers suggest a week of sex, or a month of sex, or 40 days of sex. I’ve also read accounts of people doing such challenges.

What would it take for you to have sex every day for a week? How about every day for a month?

If you’re thinking “My wife saying yes” may I suggest there’s more to it?

What does sex every day look like? Is it her laying there till you’re done, or is it both of you enjoying the sex? The first is easy if your wife is willing, but it’s no fun for either of you. (If it does sounds like fun to you, please get help!)

Sex should be more than thrust, thrust, grunt, roll over and go to sleep. It should be far more. Having good sex takes a lot. It requires you have a solid relationship with your wife outside the bedroom. It means you have intimacy in all kinds of ways. It means you share your lives in deep and meaningful ways, and it means you know each other well. 

If you don’t have this kind of relationship, you don’t have the foundation necessary for having sex most days. Without the kind of relationship I describe above, near daily sex is just a mechanical thing for your physical urges, and it falls way short of what God intended and your wife needs. It’s selfish and hollow, not loving and intimate.

If you want more frequent sex, are you willing to do what it takes? Are you willing to build a deep intimate life with your wife? Are you willing to have her in your entire life, or do you just want her in your bed?

Many men say they want more sex; few are willing to do what it takes. I’m not saying put up or shut up…

…wait, I am saying that!