Why men ignore things that scream at women

In this past post we looked at how things "scream" at or "talk" to women.  Certainly piles, messes, or

unfinished projects can cause incessant noise inside a woman's head.  This can be annoyance to a man, or he can see it as a chance to help bring her some peace.  The key is for him to tune in to the things that scream at her.

On the flip side though, it helps women to understand why men seem to ignore things that drive you crazy.  It's easy to think he's doing it on purpose.  Or he's a slob.  Or he doesn't care about you.  In fact, for good men, none of these are true.

Alison Armstrong in the Queen's Code explains the male approach.

“The makeup of the masculine brain causes it to focus on one result. It commits itself to the accomplishment of that result, and screens out everything that is irrelevant to that result. This is virtually the opposite of the feminine brain.”

This is "why a focused man can be completely unaware of a woman’s frustration.”
He is not ignoring you.  In fact, "He would have to focus on that and be doing nothing else.”
For women, their "diffuse awareness makes every task worth doing. Even the smallest thing, like picking up socks, quiets something in her environment. Something that is condemning her for allowing it to exist imperfect!  But not for a man! Since his brain screens out everything irrelevant to the result he’s focused on, something is only worth doing if it’s part of his result.”

Excerpt From: Alison A. Armstrong. “The Queen's Code.” Routledge. iBooks.

And what are these results he's so focused on?  A man lives his life earning points.  And the place he most wants to earn points from is you.  He will spend his life providing for the woman he loves (if she lets him).  So often the very reason he seems to be ignoring that thing that is screaming you is that he is focused on something else that he sees as a way to provide for you.