Maybe you don't have kids yet.
Yet.
Here's a story.
So, Beth was at this exercise class and she was being her sweet, social self. One woman she worked out with shared that she and her husband divorced.
Why?
They put the kids first.
Wait. Doesn't that bring couples together? For this woman there was a very gradual distancing that happened between her and her husband as they, presumably, ran around to birthday parties, soccer games, gymnastics classes, parent-teacher conferences, and on and on over the course of those kid years. And somewhere in there the gentle touches, the moments to talk about things on a heart level, the sex, the dates, the walks, the sweet-nothings went by the wayside.
Finally, that woman found herself in an empty-nest household with a man she didn't really know anymore.
They decided to call it quits.
Ask the kids now if they were glad mom and dad "put the kids first."
You want to love your kids (or future kids)?
Have sex (even if you have to put them in front of a video while you pull a quickie in the shower).
Want to love your kids?
Pay a babysitter so you can go out on a weekly date and actually talk (ideally, not about the kids).
Want to love your kids?
Stay up after they're in bed to play games, watch a movie, or plan a trip-whatever taps into the things you love.
There's a legacy you will leave your kids: showing them what it looks like for two adults to not just stay together but who will love life together, work through the tough stuff together, keep the hotts for each other, and "put each other first."That's one of the greatest gifts you can give each other.
-kurt (that's me, Beth, and all our little ladies!)
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